If we want something, it doesn't usually fall into our hands. Sometimes we have to take a step beyond what we think is possible in order to attain it. That puts us into vulnerable and uncomfortable situations. It might be, that someone might see us exercise and sweat and if we're usually in a position of power, it might alarm us to appear weak or on the same level as everyone else. Or maybe we expect perfection of ourselves all of the time and so learning a new skill is unfamiliar and are able to convince ourselves that we can't do it. Or sometimes, we just feel in over our head.
It's all about perception and perspective.
I went to a hooping retreat to expand my hooping horizons, open up and explore hooping from a personal view rather than a professional one. I enjoy the outdoors, love to hike and go on trails, etc. I camp but I've always camped where there are brick and wood shower facilities with electricity and full plumbing. Before the retreat I tried to find out more details about the camping and what my environment was going to be like, and didn't get very detailed answers. I resolved to just go with the flow, because that seemed to be in the spirit of the event.
When I arrived, I saw that it was indeed rustic, the showers were co-ed and in a tent structure with very creative hose design. I was dependent upon the event organizers for food and water since it was provided. I was at the mercy of the weather. I was the "new kid" who had never been to a hooping retreat. I saw hoopers who seem natural born dancers and so engaged with their body to the point of letting a lot of it show. I don't hide in sweats, I allow my fitness to show, but some take it to the next level. First impression: OMG.
And so, I was vulnerable. As the weekend continued though, I allowed my experiences to open me, to guide me in a new growth. That is how you get what you want. You need to reach for it. Take it, don't wait for it to come to you. It is not easy or comfortable. I'm here to help you through that.
As a trainer and hoop instructor, I often hear various explanations for the lack of action toward what people want:
"Oh I can't hoop. I could never as a kid." (Did you try first before making that judgement? Today?)
"I don't know why I ate this! I feel so bad for eating this." (There is no good or no bad, just your next action in the direction that achieves what you want. And if you haven't finished eating the "bad" thing, you can stop -- it's ok.)"I don't have time to exercise." (Do you watch any TV? You have time to exercise.)
"I can't afford a membership/classes/training." (Do you eat out multiple times during the week or get a daily coffee? It all adds up. Skipping it and preparing meals from home not only saves you money to put toward fitness, it also cuts back on restaurant calories. And park walks are free...)
Quite often, we're the ones in the way of getting what we want. There are many reasons why your plan may be on pause, this is by no means a complete list -- rather by popular example. It's a start to the dialogue though, and when I meet clients for the first time we talk through what is holding them back. No judgement, just encouragement. Release, let go of the "I can'ts" and "I don'ts" and allow yourself to "see where this goes".
You'll probably find yourself on the path to getting what you want.
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